The reason we have girlfriends.
November 6, 2009 at 7:36 pm | In Inspirations | 5 CommentsTags: Friends
I have a few close female friends, and once a week or so I will get together with one of them for coffee. This is code for “bitching about our men.” It’s a form of therapy, I think, the way women communicate. It’s an unspoken agreement. One of us will start out with, “So how are things going,” and the other one will sigh and say, “I don’t know. . . ” then launch into an hour-long tirade of all the terrible things her boyfriend(s) did over the past week. The sympathetic listener will interject little things here and there, but basically the speaker has the floor. Then at a silently agreed upon time, we switch places. This goes on for another hour, depending on the time allotted, and then we hug and part ways, feeling like we have grown exponentially. We have expelled the demons. We have sorted our thoughts, categorized our feelings. Whether any of what we said was true, or whether our men were really to blame for it, we’ve purified our image of them, and can now move forward in our relationships with no regrets and less bitterness.
The goal is to surround yourself with people who make smart choices in their own lives.
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Your last sentance there seems a bit outta place… Everyone besides addicts and ave rats try to surround themselves with good people who make good choices.
Maybe you meant in that situation you try to surround yourself with a sympathetic ear. Or equally delusional friend….
Love you baby, keep up the awesome bloging
Comment by blackdove — November 6, 2009 #
I just meant to maximize your “free therapy time,” it helps if you respect the choices your friends make in their own lives. It’s like someone with horrible fashion sense complimenting you on your shirt ;) And I only know this because there are people in my life who’s choices I don’t respect, and those coffee dates often leave me more depressed than when I started.
I love you too, thanks for commenting (under my login, I look like I’m talking to myself, haha).
Comment by blackdove — November 6, 2009 #
Those kinds of friendships in which you can dump your baggage for an hour and receive a kind ear and maybe even a few words of wisdom or insight are the best. The same kinds of friendships that can have such blatant honesty coming from the heart are even better. A friend who can tell the difference between what the other needs at the moment is the best.
I’m lucky to have all of that in you.
xoxo
Comment by ThursdayCoffeeDate — November 7, 2009 #
Yeah, I should have read that before submitting :P
i meant to say that the first two kinds of friendships are wonderful.. but having the combination of both is even better.
Comment by ThursdayCoffeeDate — November 7, 2009 #
You are one of three people I have that connection with, and obviously a bit more. I love you truly, and can’t wait for tomorrow night :)
xoxo
Comment by blackdove — November 7, 2009 #